Motherhood Bliss

Motherhood, what you hear, imagine, and the real thing...

Personally I was never one of those people who said that one of their life’s goals is to have children. Through all the stages in my life it was not one. I have friends who badly wanted children at the early age of 18; they were badly wanting children and dreaming of the day when this becomes real, and they can see their off springs run around. I was never like that, never. Don’t misunderstand me I did love children and still do. At a certain period of my life I considered becoming a kindergarten teacher, because I loved being around children so much. But having my own, sorry but I have never fantasized about that.

Nonetheless, here I am with baby girls, devoted the greatest part of my days to the service and maintenance of their lives. Do I enjoy being with my children? yes I do. Do I think it’s a life requirement? No I don’t. Or at least I think I don’t. You know with the year 2006 I am going to be 35 and that makes one start to wonder, but that is another issue.

When I had my first baby 2 and 4 months ago, a friend of mine asked how I felt about and I said “stupid”. If motherhood makes you feel anything, it is stupid. Here you are a reasonable adult, who spends life thinking what is fair to me and others, deciding who to love, who to take as friends and who to eliminate from your life based on their merits. Find yourself completely and utterly in love with this little creature that you brought in the world, who is unaware of anything most of all your love for it. Now how reasonable is that?!!!

I really hate the mythical approach people have to motherhood and parenthood and all that. The truth is we have no say in the matter. You have a child, if your normal, you love it unquestionably and totally. Is it roses and flowers and a wonderful dream, most certainly not? Its a nightmare. By day, you are running around catering for their needs (which is not such a bad way to spend your days, really), by night you are sleepless worried about them. What is so wonderful about that?!

I will tell you what. Its the smile. When you see their smiles and hear their laughter its then that the nightmare becomes the most wonderful of dreams.

So if someone asks would you recommend it. I would say who I am to recommend anything? But as experiences go its not a bad one at all. And I will tell you something, from all the jobs I had it is the one job that never felt insignificant nor hypocritical at any point.